Facing the New Year while Grieving

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I’ve created an infographic about Grieving and Facing the New Year. Having lost someone dear to my heart (in 2019 my son was killed in a tragic accident), I feel that every new year, my loss seems further away. When people ask, when did I lose my son, and I answer 2019, I can imagine that they might think that a lot of time has passed.

Grieving and Time

The nature of time for others will not be the same as what it means to us. As grievers, we wish we could continue to say that “we just lost our loved one a few months ago” even though it might have been years. Because for us, as parents of Zackaël, our pain is still as hurtful as it was when the year turned from 2019 to 2020. However, now it’s 2023 and our loss might seem far away.

For people who have lost their loved ones in 2021, they can no longer say that their loved one “died last year”. This is hard. Time passes quickly but the wound heals slowly.

As you might notice in my infographic below, even though it’s a new year, let’s not forget that the year 2023 will still be “heavy” for many grievers ; which is why it’s being lifted by a crane.

Infographic (text)

The New Year does not mean that:

  • the grief is less heavy
  • it’s been a “long time” since the death
  • it’s time to move on
  • 2023 will be back to normal

For the bereaved, a new year is a new year without their loved one. Time passes but the pain remains. The transition to a new year does not make their grief less important. We must then continue to support the ones who are grieving and understand that even if the death of their loved one is in the past, their pain is in the present.

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7 responses to “Facing the New Year while Grieving”

  1. Yvonne Avatar

    Encore une publication intéressante Brigitte! Ton infographie est très bien conçue. Malgré maintenant plus de 3 ans depuis le décès de Zackaël, ça me prend pas grand chose pour avoir les larmes aux yeux. Impossible de comprendre votre propre douleur, mais tu peux compter sur mon soutien.

    1. Brigitte Lehoux Avatar

      merci. Oui une infographie qui pourrait rejoindre plusieurs endeuillés durant la nouvelle année ; nouveaux deuils mais aussi ceux que ça fait plusieurs années.

  2. Gilles Doin Avatar
    Gilles Doin

    Effectivement pas facile ! Je viens de perdre ma
    Maman à l’âge de 102 ans le 6 janvier dernier . On venais de fêter en famille la venue de la nouvelle année ! Elle étais encore très en forme et très lucide ! Elle étais heureuse de pouvoir fêter avec tous ses enfants ( 8 ) vivants arrière petits enfants et arrière arrière petits ( 2) 5 générations! Oui on a été privilégié de l’avoir avec nous toutes ces années . Il n’y a pas grand monde qui auront la chance de vivre ce bonheur . C’est pour nous tous une lourde perte , une partie de notre cœur s’est envolé ! Repose toi maintenant maman , tu l’a tellement bien mérité et veille maintenant sur nous tous ♥️

    1. Brigitte Lehoux Avatar

      effectivement, même si votre mère avait 102 ans, la perte est grande. Mes sincères condoléances. Elle semble avoir été chanceuse de vous avoir si près. Merci pour ton commentaire.

  3. CMH Avatar

    Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your blog.

    1. Brigitte Lehoux Avatar

      thank you so much and for your support as always. Wishing you a happy new year.

  4. CMH Avatar

    Thank you for sharing. I appreciate you sharing your experience.

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